to me and my ENFJ friends

We *like* and wholeheartedly agree with what they say about us:

"ENFJs focus on others, feeling a glow when those around them are happy, and troubled when something is amiss. They are natural cheerleaders, often expressing support, gratitude, and encouragement, and heaping praise onto those they appreciate.

They take note of what is being done and what needs doing, offering their assistance wherever necessary. ENFJs enjoy organizing group activities and tend to take their commitments seriously. In general, they are reliable and do not like to disappoint others." (from Wikipedia)

But unfortunately, as we all know, it also means we are extremely sensitive to criticism. And we mull over negative feedback for a long time. And we go back and forth from being defensive and angry and hurt, to gritting our teeth and accepting that critics may be right after all so we roll up our sleeves and try to make the (sometimes) painful changes.

Take heart! This connection might seem random, but I'll make a mini case for it anyway:

Augustine says,

"Love God, and do as you please."

So, let's keep focusing on the loving God part and then do our thing, and worry a little less about the noise.

I'll say it again, let's focus on the loving God part, so we can love people better without getting tripped up and bogged down by their opinion of us.