Advice to Boys II
Just to clarify my point 2c from yesterday's post below...
A "helpful response" - includes actions such as:
i) head nodding
ii) sympathetic facial expressions or sympathetic, NON-annoying sounds. "Mmmmm" or "hmm" or even an indignant sigh on our behalf are all acceptable.
iii) the asking of probing questions in an appropriately considerate, but not babying way
I cannot repeat enough that IN NO WAY whatsoever, does "helpful response" mean:
i) giving unsolicited advice
ii) making light of the situation
iii) providing noble reflections about how it's helping to build our chracater.
TIMING, my friends, it's all about the TIMING!!!
A "helpful response" - includes actions such as:
i) head nodding
ii) sympathetic facial expressions or sympathetic, NON-annoying sounds. "Mmmmm" or "hmm" or even an indignant sigh on our behalf are all acceptable.
iii) the asking of probing questions in an appropriately considerate, but not babying way
I cannot repeat enough that IN NO WAY whatsoever, does "helpful response" mean:
i) giving unsolicited advice
ii) making light of the situation
iii) providing noble reflections about how it's helping to build our chracater.
TIMING, my friends, it's all about the TIMING!!!
posted by Duncan and Jen | 10:24 AM
2 Comments:
may i add...
that responses should not ... in any way... include the typical christianese jargon that is condescending and therefore makes matters worse. because many a times, its just copping out with whatever SOUNDS good instead of actually empathizing with us and putting yourself in our shoes. - sooj
Hmmmm Hmmm
MMmmmm Yes, I understand...
Mmmhmmm, Ok
Hmmmm I see.
*grunt*
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